Now Reading ...Hallo, Welcome to the part 2!
Like I have said in part 1, Friends and Community is your second most important Wealth that you should have in blogging. You should read the part one as your guidance to this part. “Friends” is the main topic of this part.
Talking about friends, This movie occur instantaneously in my mind:
Yup, It’s F.R.I.E.N.D.S.
In my opinion, This is a great movie I’d ever watch about friendship! They are a “true and best” friends ever! I always enjoy of their joke and relationship when I watch their movies.
So, what is the point for me to put their picture here?
Well, I think they represent what a “good friends” looks like! 
You and your blogger friends are all it the same “frame” of blogosphere picture. Although not all of bloggers in this “frame of blogosphere” is not a positive mindset peoples, they still worth to make friend with…
But, something really interesting happen here. There is a fact said that “no matter how you are going to get friends, The positive you, will attract the positive of other. Or in a short words, Positive attract positive. Negative attract more Negative.
This movie, which I got from Edward at his blog, will show you the brief introduction about this concept of attraction each other. Or what the guru, John F. Demartini called it, “The Law of Attraction”.
This is the book he was talking about (affiliate link):
The left side is the book version and to black one is the DVD version.
That’s a new method of attracting people. But, never forget that there is a great classical books about building relationship too!
Dale Carnegie in his book about “How to Win Friends and Influence People”, explained well about human relationship. This book is a classical methods of Dale Carnegie to make more friends. Although this book is classic, the knowledges inside this book are wonderful and evergreen ways to find friends and influence them.Ok, book is book. How about the real ways to promote your blog and make more friends for your community?
There are several ways to increase and get more friends in the blogosphere. The online easiest ways to build community and friend is using the service like Mybloglog.com & BlogCatalog.com. I have indulged myself in this Mybloglog.com for quiet some times now. And I totally agree that MBL is cool for building communities.
As a kick start for you, Why don’t you join my community? This link with take you there!
I suggest you to buy your own domain name to begin your community building progress. Subdomain on Blogger, Wordpress.com, Livejournal, and etc will hurt your credibility. Not only that, you will build popularity, links and ranking for them, not for yourself.
You can find alot of same minded friends across Mybloglog.com and BlogCatalog.com. You only need some time to add peoples as your friend and join their community to get some acknowledgment from your blogging friends.
Try to apply the “The Secrets” and Carnegie’s technic here. I believe you will build enough reliable, positive, and good blogging partners.
As soon as you build some list of friends, your blog will start getting some real traffics from your friends. And… You’ll jumping happy on this situation?? Nope! I hope you are not!
It’s to early to jumping happy now. You’ll need to “maintain” your blog and relationship with your blogging friends so they will coming back next time!
The real key here is to provide a good contents on your blog to attract your friends and readers. If your site have no content at all (excluding video or audio presentation blog), Make sure to pack your goods and prepare to say “bye-bye” to the blogosphere.
Blogosphere is a cold, cold world, actually. If your blog got no “valuable” contents, only yourself is the loyal visitor! So, the conclusion?
Create a good content, nope, good content won’t work now. You need to create a “G-r-e-a-t-t-t!” Contents to make yourself explode in blogging!
Where to find great content? In Y-o-u-r-s-e-l-f! That’s what gurus said to me all this time! Be yourself and create your own sound. Don’t try to imitate other’s style or voices. Use your own style!
Let’s hear a song on Be yourself! 
Enjoy the song?
Be yourself, use your own words and style to create your own contents. When you have done it, other factors are less hard! For example, about your stature in blogosphere, Lytebyte have provide us about this subject. He make a post about “The Experiment Proven to Change a Blog Stature Forever“.
I personally happy and feeling in debt with Mr.Lytebyte. He shouldn’t share those tips to us for free! By using his experiments, I have created enough traffic to my blog on everytime I create a post!
Maintaining your blog is important, but never forget to maintain your Friendship too! The effect is terrifying!
Send your friend a message regularly. Comments on their post is a must. Ping back if they have good post which related with your contents. Darren Rowse wrote a great content on How Comments Can Help Your Blog Rank Well in the Search Engines. He also wrote a great guideline for you to leave a comments in your friends blog.
Building relationship needs time. You cannot rush about it or force people to like you. Friends and Community is one of your wealth in Blogging. Make sure to build and maintain it as hard as you can. They are your Traffic and They are your life’s blood. Take the best care as you can and do not make them feel disappointed with you!
With that, Hopefully you’ll success!
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(June 16, 2007, 12:09 pm)
I like that attitude !
Reply to jamy(June 16, 2007, 2:33 pm)
Thanks, Jamy! If you like it, please come back often!
Reply to Ken Xu(June 17, 2007, 5:01 pm)
oh, that Dale Carnegie’s book! well, it really changed my life. That book is really a treasure 100% of it.
Reply to JennyHow(June 17, 2007, 11:05 pm)
Sure! It have also change a big part of my introvert self into a human that willing to share lots of story with people and try to find more friends in my life! Nice book with a great practicable method in relationship!
Reply to Ken Xu“How to win friends and influence people” is my top ten favorite books!